"Dear New Mom, You Are Not Failing"

“You’re not a bad mom. You’re just a human one. And that’s enough.”

There’s a silent kind of pain that many new mothers carry — not because they’re weak, but because they’re trying so hard, and still made to feel like it’s not enough.

After giving birth — especially through C-section — your body is healing from major surgery. But what the world often forgets is that healing doesn’t come alone. It comes with sleepless nights, pain, exhaustion, and the pressure of “getting it right” from day one.

Now imagine this — you’re sore, barely able to sit, struggling to feed your baby, and all around you are opinions. Advice. Judgments.

You’re trying everything: different feeding positions, silicone nipples, even formula when nothing works. You’re barely managing. And then someone — another woman — says something like:

"You’re not trying hard enough."
"You just don’t want to breastfeed."
"You’re lazy."

That comment hits differently.

Because it doesn’t come from a stranger. It comes from someone who should know. A woman. Possibly even a mother herself. And yet instead of support, she offers shame.

That’s what broke something inside. Not the feeding struggle. Not the pain.
But the lack of compassion.

So here’s the truth no one says enough:

• You’re not less of a mother because breastfeeding didn’t work.

• You’re not lazy for choosing what’s best for your baby and your sanity.

• You’re not selfish for needing help, rest, or a break.

Every woman’s motherhood journey is different. Some handle things silently. Others break down loudly. Some get help. Some fight through it alone. None of these stories are “wrong.”

But imagine if we could stop comparing and start caring.
If we — as women — stopped tearing each other down and instead said:

“You’re doing enough.”
“I see how hard you’re trying.”
“I’m proud of you.”

From one mother to another — I get it. And if no one’s told you lately:
You’re strong. You’re brave. You’re already everything your baby needs.

“I had a breakdown moment I shared in ‘I Just Needed a Place to Breathe’. If you need a hug, read this.”

“Motherhood isn’t just about surviving — sometimes it’s about letting go, like in ‘When Did Being Mother Mean Giving Up’.”